Friday, September 16, 2005

Think About It

Revenge, ignore or vindication, that is the question~~

       Last December I had wrote about a very good friend of mine who had married a charismatic beast, then endured 3 years of beatings and verbal cruelty before finally drawing a line in the, protect my life, category with another beating, drowning attempt.  http://journals.aol.com/justaname4me2/InTheShadowOfTheIris/entries/1075 <the story of how this happened>

       I have to say, going through all of the legal BS, was enlightening and unbelievably frustrating for all those involved. How the court system makes a victim endure repulsive attacks, and allows for tiny little minuscule cracks in the system to work in the favor of the criminal and leans towards the 'rights' of the criminal is just disgusting, if not down right apprehensible.       

       The criminal is not in jail at this time, he does not have to wear his GPS unit anymore, forms of personal alarm systems, compliments of the state are no longer sponsored at my friends home. Sure, there are monster restraining orders in place and the criminal is on probation for the next couple of years, but he walks the streets. <No, he did NOT do the punishment with the crime, he had a damn good lawyer and the police department messed up some of their investigation which the bloodhound lawyer used to his pure delights>

       Interestingly enough, the criminals work, his self employment line of making a living, is a sub-sect of the type of business I am in. Meaning, our lines have good and potential for crossing over each other.

       I will admit here, that I have made sure and kept any and everyone in my line of influence, fully aware of this snakes capabilities and public criminal record. I feel that if you earn the right to carry the identification and conviction of Domestic violence and Battery and Assault and a few other choice kept charges, the whole damn world should know. He earned it, why not let the world be aware? <because of a few police faults, attempted murder was dropped, along with the majority of his sentence was suspended alaprobation time to hang over his head.>

       I guess I feel, there is no excuse to let this man slink into the darkness and pretend he's some sort of upstanding man. He's good like that, a regular Ted Bundy. I am not the only one that feels this way. It feels like there are outposts staged throughout this little city, keeping an eye on the snake and a hand on the telephone just waiting for more reasons to call the police on him. Trust me, there have already been a few reasons and the calls have been made.

       If he continues to break his probation, the huge jail time looming over his head is eventually going to come crashing down on his demented life. At least thats what all of us outposts are wishing for.

       The reason for my entry today, is because I received the call last night, indicating the Beast has moved shop to a new city to perform his line of work. I was appalled to discover he has moved his work and residence to my precious little tiny Mountain town. MY HAVEN, my little escape, my cabin.

       He was discovered drinking at the little local bar up there, it seems someone had hired him to do work for a new subdivision that is going in. Now, my little cabin retreat is only about 55 minutes from the city. So this isn't a case of a snake going to a new place to start over, or live a reborn life. In his field he has to go where the work is, and more importantly, where no one knows he has 15 judgments and 100 mechanical leans thrown against him because he doesn't pay people or bills.

       I have one set of relatives who live up there full time. My parents, two other sets of relatives and I, are classified as weekenders. I feel, in either the label of revenge, vindication, public awareness, and downright justice, it is again my duty to inform as many people up there, of the capabilities of this man.

       If it's public record, i.e. criminal record, and the public record of bad liens and judgments, this is not a case of simply slandering someone for my own enjoyment <although I do get a generous amount of perverted smiles from such antics>

       Starting first with making sure the one and only bar owner is perfectly aware that this man is on probation and with that knowledge if he serves such animal he is also standing in the potential of breaking the law. Thankfully, I know the Bar owner personally, he's a sweet little man who always eats at the Sunday breakfast given by the Senior Center. (note: because he's an alcoholic and severely failed his alcohol evaluation, he is NOT allowed to drink the entire duration of his probabtion>
      
       I will resist the urge to print the mans mug shot and post it to every fence post around, I promise. But I have no qualms about making sure the whole town knows a snake has arrived.

       Now, on a last note, I understand that reading this may make people believe I am playing a dangerous game with a proven criminal. Yes, but rest assured, everything the outposts and I have done and will continue to do are done from the anonymous side of a telephone, directly to the police, or on the sly with no trace back to personal accountability possible. We like to think we are smarter then the criminal. 

       The worst thing I've done that could get me busted or directly blamed, is this entry.

Now think about it, would you, or would you not, do this very thing if someone you love had been hurt in such a horrendous way by another, and he was released back into the world to look for his next victim? 

25 comments:

Anonymous said...

We could SOO talk hon'.  My sister is currently embroiled in a similar situation with her ex.  We are all just now finding out about physical abuse.  It is frightening because he is a VERY PROMINENT doctor in a LARGE CITY in ALABAMA.  He is also "not originally American", and has very strong...very frightening ties to his home country... We also just found out that he has information on one of our family members...that he wouldn't have known unless he was following that person.  Very scary stuff.  Scream it from the roof tops I say. ;)  C.  http://journals.aol.com/gdireneoe/thedailies

Anonymous said...

be careful..u never know what he may do..sounds creepy...ugh...

Anonymous said...

I would tell all about him if he is indeed looking for his next victim, which only you know, by knowing him, if he is. It doesn't seem like he made a mistake and did his time, obeyed the rules of his probation and is ready to become a model citizen, so I would let key people know he is there. If, on the other hand, he did do his time, is obeying his probation and wants to honestly change and be a better person, I would leave him alone. Howver, by reading your entry, I think that is not the case for him. Take care of yourself.

betty

Anonymous said...

You bet your sweet bippy I'd do the same :)

Everyone who is in business would know, and even those not....

You didn't mention if this person knows you live there.  If so, just be careful.

Hope he leaves soon.

Cat

Anonymous said...

I know ( exactly) how you feel. My daughter was in an abusive marriage for many years, and the court system, leaned towards the rights of the one doing all the harm, just like it's doing today - in too many cases.
Barb- http://journals.aol.com/barbpinion/HEYLETSTALK
        http://journals.aol.com/barbpinion/THERESTOFTHESTORY

Anonymous said...

"Charismatic Beasts" by their very nature tend not to stay alone for long. They feed off a women in their thrall just as most of us need air to breathe. I'd say it is your duty to spread to word as far as you can, because as we "speak" an unsuspecting woman may be flattered by this charmers attentions. I know this type of man, and I know he will blame his alcoholism. Some may even feel sorry for him and wonder why you don't let him start afresh, but these types tend not to change. Without the fuel of alcohol his violent, abusive tendancies may lay dormant a while; until the night he takes a drink again, or suffers some "imagined" provocation.

Shout it loud Rebecca!

Tilly x
http://journals.sol.co.uk/tillysweetchops/Adventuresofadesperatelyfathouse/

Anonymous said...

Good for you.  Protect yours.  Be careful though.  Prayers coming for you all.

Be well,
Dawn
http://journals.aol.com/princesssaurora/CarpeDiem/
Poetry:
http://journals.aol.com/princesssaurora/TouchofEmpathy/

Anonymous said...

Metaphorically speaking, shout it from the rooftops with a megaphone! Right on.

Ari

Anonymous said...

In answer to your question YES !
Be careful though ......snakes often have a way of slithering thru the grass and biting when least expected x

Anonymous said...

Keep on keepin on!!

Amanda
http://journals.aol.com/trickeytricky/CountryMyKindaLivin

Anonymous said...

I most definitely would!!!
Connie

Anonymous said...

I have to email you on this one....

Anonymous said...

I would do the same thing. what a creep
Way to go keep after him but be careful

Deb

Anonymous said...

My sister has a "Charismatic Beats" in her life...  because he is the father of her child and the courts support the bad guy. I know what you mean in everything you've said...  because it is all true.  I look at his lawyers who KNOW what kind of guy he is and wonder how they can sleep at night.  We have to stand up against people like this or worse will happen.  I am on your side girlfriend.  

Dawn

Anonymous said...

Shout it loud and proud!
This public service announcement brought to you by...

Judith
http://journals.aol.com/jtuwliens/MirrorMirrorontheWall

Anonymous said...

People have to stand up to beasts like this and when the law doesn't protect you, you have to find other measures to protect yourself, and I am not just talking about protection from physical abuse.. there is verbal, mental, emotional abuse to think of.   I hope you are safe through whatever you do for your friends and others protection. I am not sure what I would do, I just know I would  try to help some way.

Anonymous said...

Careful kiddo....just be careful.
Make sure you have a guarded back.

Put a Smile on your face and a song in your heart.

Wishing you health, happiness and laughter.
TJ~

http://journals.aol.com/paisleyskys/PaisleySkys
http://journals.aol.com/vaultofsecrets/MoonDancer

Anonymous said...

Do the right thing. Only you knows what is best...

Anonymous said...

I totally suport your actions but beg you to be careful.  He sounds like someone who will strike out if he feels pushed into a corner.  And, he would no doubt seek revenge.
Donna

Anonymous said...

I agree with you, but also urge you to be careful.  people like this are scary

~  www.jerseygirljournal.com

Anonymous said...

"Now think about it, would you, or would you not, do this very thing if someone you love had been hurt in such a horrendous way by another, and he was released back into the world to look for his next victim"?

I would, especially after what i've seen growing up as a child.  My mom loved this guy and he'd beat the crap out of her.  I wanted to make him pay.

Anonymous said...

Rebecca,
From here on out I shall call you braveheart.

The answer to your question is "Yes, I would definitely do the same thing."

I do remember those entries from so long ago, and I recall how much this monster affected not just your friend's life, but yours as well.

I do hope he moves again, and hopefully he will if you keep the megahorns blowing.

Maryanne
http://journals.aol.com/globetrotter2u/Myfeelingsarereal/entries/1179

Anonymous said...

Oh Yeah!! Tell everyone you can and keep on fighting the good fight! It is horrible how the law protects the criminal often at the price of the victim.... And, those 'charming beasts' seldom change their spots, just their partners and locations.
http://journals.aol.com/astaryth/AdventuresofanEclecticMind

Anonymous said...

I am SO with you all the way, and if I could be right there with you fighting the good fight, by all means, I would.  Why can't you post pictures with the words "Wife Beater" all over the place?  What's so illegal about that?  I read an article once about a woman who posted pictures all over the place with the words "Rapist" underneath.  He had raped her and got away with it.  Just like hanging  up a "for sale" sign.  And how will he know it's you doing it?  Food for thought.

Chris
http://journals.aol.com/jeroldssis/ItsAllAboutMeIthink

Anonymous said...

It is wrong that men get away with abusing women, and the court system does little or nothing. I have so much rage at all the injustice. Bless your friend. judi