For Fun

ok this is for Jazz, lol first time for everything and here I go giving it a try. If anyone else feels inclined head on over to My Journey Home to get the questions and try it out yourself!

Relationships can be complicated. This quiz is to check if your in a healthy relationship or not.

1. What is your definition of family? does blood constitute family for you? Family is but who you surround yourself with on a day to day basis. I do have a large family, blood and would do anything in the world for them in a single heart beat if asked. I also have some < a few> in my life I consider family who I do not share a drop of relative bloodline with but feel the same towards. Family is safe, family doesn't threaten or drain you, family is the pillars in which I lean on when needed, laugh with constantly and hope and dream with.

2. Do the people who matter most to you put you down or raise you up? If they put you down , why do you continue to keep them in your circle? The people who matter to most never put me down and always are there for the raise up <especially these days> There have been those, whom I considered great friends who over time I realised pulled me down insteed of along. Thankfully I found life is MUCH better without them in it. It's a bit of a double edge sword, I do miss them sometimes, but as soon as I was able to back away I felt the weight of their friendships shift from my shoulders. Now with that being said, My personal relationship is a different matter, I think he does but both, raise me up and pull me down. Tis a confusing quandry I've yet to understand and lol this page wouldn't be long enough to try to hash that out right now.

3. Does your significant other find fault in you or find favor? If he or she finds fault, why do you stay? I don't feel like he personally finds fault in me. I think he finds me just where he likes me, constantly praising him, raising him up, appreciating his littlest acts. As long as I go along with a smile on my face and coffee brewed in the morning he's just peachy. It's complicated with him, along with true disorders he came from a terribly childhood and it's taken us years to sortout some of things. Again.......too long for this quiz!

4. How much is too much of a sacrifice for love? what is the limit on what is acceptable to take and to do to get it? Now I like this question and I know I'd never be able to answer it all in this box of time. It's the very thing I've been struggling with lately when it comes to him. I'm trying now to decide what are the deal breakers and what are the relationship killers in my life. I can say this, I know I accepted things I thought I would NEVER except in a relationship. I also think my sacrifice cup is just about empty, i.e. limit hit!

5. When you allow people to come into your life do you lower you standards to gain their friendship or do you state the manner in which the relationship will go? I tend to adjust to whom I am dealing with. Take their tone and go with it. I always feel the need to make people comfortable around me. I don't really change who I am, but I do adjust accordingly example, subjects, topics to chat about etc. I've been told I'm a bit intimidating if I don't!

6. When you look at the relationships in your life, do they reflect your present , future or past? more specifically have you out grown the relationships in your life? have they held you back? or have they inspired you to move towards excellence?  Interesting question. I'll have to ponder the first question.......Out growing relationships is an interesting concept too. Do you really outgrow them or do they eventually drain you? Strain you? Expire you? Are the deal breakers and relationship killers overshadowing the good times, the good memories the good qualities that once made you love someone to the deepest parts of your heart. If you toss all the good and the bad on one of those old time balanced weight machines does the bad side come crashing to the floor with the good stuff dangling like a hasbeen above? For me, I think my balance is off. I know it is off. I just have to decide when is it fruitless efforts to keep trying to throw stuff in the air hoping it will land on the good side and put a bit more balance to things.

7. when your in the presence of the people who you allow in your life do you feel drained or energized?  For the most part energized. I'm lucky tohave some wonderful quality people in my life. My personal relationship can be both, usually leaning on the draining side. His ups are amazingly energizing, his downs are unbelievably draining. For me......this is the part that drives me to continue to write, continue to distinguish between the good and the bad and see if there really is any hope left.............

Whew, lol don't even know if I really answered questions or just started thinking again, but it was worth a try. Thanks Jazz :o)